|
Post by Capricorn Princess on Jan 9, 2004 20:29:27 GMT -5
I heard about Minister Farakan. It was said that he made folks get up and leave because of the way they were carrying on and dressed...said he pointed them out and had them escorted out. Some were even sitting up in the church eating...came prepared for the show!
|
|
Common
Ultimate Ruffness
You Got To Feel It!
Posts: 7,442
|
Post by Common on Jan 11, 2004 13:51:57 GMT -5
Speaking of a show at the funeral CP! Rev. Farrakhan put on quite a show himself. I wish I had a copy of that sermon. A lot of people left there that day HEATED But the brother told the truth. Then there was one of David's women{amongst many} in particular that MADE herself stand out. I will have to tell yall bout that. I will say that her display wasn't neccessary nor appreciated. Not my words,some of the family members. Der, I would be very interested hearing this story. I wonder which one made a spectacle out of herself? That sounds very disrespectful & trifling to me!
|
|
der68
Ultimate Ruffness
Posts: 3,573
|
Post by der68 on Jan 11, 2004 20:20:54 GMT -5
Der, I would be very interested hearing this story. I wonder which one made a spectacle out of herself? That sounds very disrespectful & trifling to me! Common disrespectful & trifling are good words to describe it. She needed her kicked. Acting like she was the widow Ruffin. I'm sure she was hurt because everybody was,but most of her drama was for show. I will tell any of the members that want to know in private via IM. And I'm sure you know why. Gurl! everybody was talking about the poor chile! She made a "Plumb" fool out of herself. Once Minister Farrakhan started talking I'm sure she was aware of just how stupid she was. I'm sure she was one of the ones that left the church Heated. Well if she had any sense she would have. The family should have asked her to leave. If it was my call I would have! People are always talking about Dianne at the funeral. I think she was very poised. genna had the nerve to talk about her wearing shorts to CC's. She did,but so what! She was dressed properly at the church. Like I said before I am thankful to Dianne and she has my sympathy for what she went through. I know it wasn't easy. But she became the villian. David would have died the same way regardless of what woman he was with at that time. Because not any if us could stop him. Not Any! Some of his other girlfriends were jealous of Dianne. That's the name of that tune.
|
|
|
Post by Andy on Jan 11, 2004 20:33:27 GMT -5
Hi Der: I think that in Tony's book, he mentioned a woman in some large hat at the funeral. Could that be who you are talking about? AJA
|
|
|
Post by Joda on Jan 11, 2004 20:36:59 GMT -5
der, I know who you are referring to. I do so agree. No matter how much grief, she had no reason to dress the way she did. That attire is reserved for the widow only. He was not married to her.
There were people there eating powered donuts in front of me. Down front I mean... Some of the women were in very skimpy dresses. Lower than low cleavage and up to the crack short. They deserved the reprimand they got...
Diane and her attire at the after party? To me that was not appropriate. CC even said the same to me. Some have said that it was hot, so she was being comfortable. It was a warm day, but CC's house is air conditioned. The respect it showed David left something to be desired. However, that was her call.
|
|
der68
Ultimate Ruffness
Posts: 3,573
|
Post by der68 on Jan 11, 2004 20:45:55 GMT -5
Hi Der: I think that in Tony's book, he mentioned a woman in some large hat at the funeral. Could that be who you are talking about? AJA Andy! you're back! I am so happy You know Molly has been for you. Andy hat and viel! But her actions were worse then her attire. But it is the same woman.
|
|
|
Post by Joda on Jan 11, 2004 20:48:09 GMT -5
Now the remark I said about the attire for a widow, does in no way reflect on her character. I have met and talked to her. I found her to be a lady who tried so hard to help David. We even talked after David passed. She went through many devastating times close to the end. I do respect her for the help she gave David. The farm that she and David lived on, to the best of my knowledge was her mom's. Someone cared deeply...
|
|
der68
Ultimate Ruffness
Posts: 3,573
|
Post by der68 on Jan 11, 2004 21:03:11 GMT -5
der, I know who you are referring to. I do so agree. No matter how much grief, she had no reason to dress the way she did. That attire is reserved for the widow only. He was not married to her. There were people there eating powered donuts in front of me. Down front I mean... Some of the women were in very skimpy dresses. Lower than low cleavage and up to the crack short. They deserved the reprimand they got... Diane and her attire at the after party? To me that was not appropriate. CC even said the same to me. Some have said that it was hot, so she was being comfortable. It was a warm day, but CC's house is air conditioned. The respect it showed David left something to be desired. However, that was her call. Jody, I don't know what she was thinking about. I don't know who she thought she was. I disagree about Diane's attire. I don't think it disrespected David at all. I'm sure after all Diane had to endure she felt like she could wear anything she wanted. That woman respected David while he was alive. She took him in,loved him tried to care for him,and went through a lot of mess with him and because of him. That to me is showing a person respect. Wearing shorts to CC's? I don't see that as anything but trying to be comfortable. CC of all people should not have been offended,she wasn't always correctly attired herself. I just thought it was petty in light of everything she had done for David for people that loved David to make a big deal out of it. David would not have cared. Would you have let David live with you in that condtion? Would CC? I wouldn't. Diane did smething a lot of people that loved David would not or did not do. I will always respect her for that. There was a lot f things going on at that after party that wasn't reverent.
|
|
der68
Ultimate Ruffness
Posts: 3,573
|
Post by der68 on Jan 11, 2004 21:07:37 GMT -5
Now the remark I said about the attire for a widow, does in no way reflect on her character. I have met and talked to her. I found her to be a lady who tried so hard to help David. We even talked after David passed. She went through many devastating times close to the end. I do respect her for the help she gave David. The farm that she and David lived on, to the best of my knowledge was her mom's. Someone cared deeply... You're right Jody. But Diane's attire should not diminish what she did for David either. Nor should she be villified because he was living with her when he died. Debbie didn't do one thing more then Diane. David moved in with her and her kids. I have talked to Diane. So I know that she did more to help David then he did for her. She loved David,and she has my graditude. No matter what Debbie did for David. It doesn't excuse her behavior at his funeral. Diane being disrespectful by wearing shorts to CC's? Debbie's behaviour is what I call disrespectful.
|
|
|
Post by Queenie on Jan 11, 2004 21:16:36 GMT -5
Molly a lot of people don't even have health insurance let alone life insurance it some thing people just don't think about..
At the time of David's death he was young therefore they might not have thought life insurance was needed . In hindsight, Sandra wish she could have done things differetly you know we all say if I can only go back and change things. The beauty of the story people love David enough to help out. If I knew it was a collection taken up I would have contributed.
He was trying to make a living the best way he knew how sadly life insurance was not at the top.
|
|
molly
Ultimate Ruffness
Posts: 7,446
|
Post by molly on Jan 11, 2004 21:40:10 GMT -5
Molly a lot of people don't even have health insurance let alone life insurance it some thing people just don't think about.. At the time of David's death he was young therefore they might not have thought life insurance was needed . In hindsight, Sandra wish she could have done things differetly you know we all say if I can only go back and change things. The beauty of the story people love David enough to help out. If I knew it was a collection taken up I would have contributed. He was trying to make a living the best way he knew how sadly life insurance was not at the top. New David was 50 when he died. He was in no ways too young to have life insurance. I'm sure Sandra thought David had life insurance. I'm sure his kids thought so too. Technically he did have insurance,only he wasn't paying the premiums.New back in the day we were more concerned with life insurance than Blue Cross. That wasn't the point I was trying to make. I wish Sandra would have had a policy on him. At least she and his kids would have benefited.The point was genna his so called common law wife didn't have any. Niether did Debbie or Diane his fiance. It seems everybody was more then willing to be in the spot light as his woman,wife ect. But only one had the intelligence to have insurance on him. She was also very generous with the monies. When she did not have to be. I think this was a greater demonstration of love for a person than acting a fool at his funeral,or writting a book. Sandra had a great responsibility in raisng his daughters. She was the ex-Mrs. Ruffin,as some of his women are more than happy to remind everybody. Everybody was in a mad race to be Mrs. Ruffin,what did they think was going to happen when he died? I like you would have contributed. Actually my husband did give Sandra money,and was honored to do so. Because we loved David.
|
|
|
Post by BeesNVMe on Jan 11, 2004 21:53:22 GMT -5
Molly, that's what friends do...they help each other out.
|
|
|
Post by BeesNVMe on Jan 11, 2004 21:54:23 GMT -5
Hi Andy! It's good to see you out and about. We missed you.
|
|
|
Post by Joda on Jan 11, 2004 21:55:32 GMT -5
;D HEHEHE maybe I should have said that both of them used a little less than good judgement... Still their call. I will say that I do not belittle Diane for what she did for David. I thank her for the support she gave him. Maybe I needed to step back in my own grief and look at things in a different light. There were things said to me by people close to the scenairo, that in the beginning made me feel that there were things questionable. So far none of that has been brought to fruition. Really all I can she that she did was love David as we all did. If there is anything to the questions some folks had, it will come out in time. I hope she has piece of mind...
|
|
|
Post by Queenie on Jan 11, 2004 21:58:13 GMT -5
I am happy Sandra had a friend name Molly. You are a dying breed please continued to be generous..
About the other women well in there defense they never thout about it not saying they should have but only saying they did not think about it...
|
|